One of the things I learned through years of struggling with my extreme weight issue, going through losing 100 pounds, gaining it back plus more and then doing it all over again, was diets don’t work for me. Yet, the next year I’d be back on the next latest diet.
Why? Because all we’ve been told by the billion-dollar weight loss industry is diet, maintenance, diet, maintenance. Lifestyle change was not in my vocabulary. I’ve learned it’s the most valuable word I have.
A Little Is Too Much
Diets didn’t work because I’d greatly restrict myself for a season, then I would go on maintenance. On maintenance I would be told I could eat a little of whatever I wanted. That was my downfall every time. A little was always too much.
Once I added a little of those foods back, I couldn’t do just a little. The taste was enough to send me back to the way I was eating before and all the weight would come back on.
It’s like telling an alcoholic who has been sober for a year that she have a small alcoholic drink every week. We all know that would be ridiculous. It would not work because she’s addicted to alcohol.
The only way an addict can get free is by working with another, a mentor, someone who has been where she is and has been successful; others, a group of peers in her same situation to share failures and successes; and the Other, the power of God to give her grace and strength for the journey.
This is exactly what I how I finally began to face my demons and chose to follow God’s path to freedom.
It’s Not About A Diet
When folks find out I’ve lost more than 260 pounds, the first think they ask is what diet do you follow? Here’s the truth, any diet will work, but every diet will not fix our desire to consume our favorite foods. That is the crux of that matter and it is an emotional, mental and spiritual issue that goes much deeper than just what’s happening on the outside.
Following a diet is like following the law talked about in the scripture. When we are forced to do something, we rebel.
This is very similar to what Paul was telling the Romans when he said, “I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway … I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong.”1
Following a rigid plan never works because we have not changed the reason we do the “wrong thing” in the first place. We have habits formed over decades. To just stop them is difficult when we’ve relied on these substances to get us through life for this long.
Relying on the Wrong Thing
I know because I relied on sugar and comfort foods to protect me, comfort me, be my friend, reward me, cheer me up, calm me down, chill me out. In other words, I relied on foods to make me somewhat normal.
Being an overachiever in school and work left me stressed and overwhelmed. So food rewarded me for my hard work. Many women I have coached are in difficult relationships and feel their only solace is to eat, which ultimately makes them feel like an even bigger failure when the pounds begin to pile on.
What we do not need is another diet to get us through. We need to address what’s going on to make us want to eat another meal after we’ve just had a full meal. We need to dig deep to understand our motivations, which began way back in childhood.
What’s God Got To Do With It?
Those issues also color how we view God as a God of wrath ready to pounce on us when we don’t follow our diet. I’ve found just the opposite to be true. He’s there with open arms leading us back to Himself and from there He can help us if we will surrender our rights to Him. Yes, even the right to eat whatever, whenever.
God has over-the-top, phenomenal plans for our lives. First, though, we have to accept His extravagant grace to lead us even though this process of sugar and food addiction.
He cares about every part of our lives. He uses the difficulties we face to bring us closer to Him.
What God said to Paul was meant to bring Paul even closer to God. “My grace is enough. It’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in YOUR weakness.”2 God is strong all the time, but when we are asserting our free will to do whatever we want, to damage our bodies He gave us to house His Holy Spirit, He will not help us. He will not interfere with our freedom of choice.
The only time He can help us is when we admit our weakness for certain foods and quantities of food we eat. We repent by laying those on His altar, asking for forgiveness for all the times we didn’t listen to Him and asking for His help.
The Arms of Grace
Nothing changed in my life until my desire to follow God completely changed. For a long time, I closed the door to my food and didn’t let God in. I didn’t want Him telling me what to do in that one area. He was just waiting until I was at the end of my resources and cried out to Him in sincerity.
When I said, “God, I admit I am a sugar addict. I desperately need Your help. I will do whatever you say. I’m all in. Just teach me, show me, lead me and I will follow.”
As I took my first risky step of faith towards eradicating sugar from my life for the rest of my life, I had no idea whether I would fall into a deep, dark abyss or step on solid ground. Imagine my surprise when I fell right into the arms of grace.
How To Overcome
I needed a group to help me lose over 260 pounds. It was another major ingredient to overcoming the stronghold certain foods had on me. I formed Overcomers Community to help others like I was, obtain freedom from the chains of food and sugar addiction. This coaching group is not about dieting. It’s about how to step into a lifestyle change.
It’s a supportive, encouraging community of people who have tried every diet and failed numerous times. It’s about learning how to find those emotional, mental and spiritual roots and change how we view them. It’s about stepping out of denial and learning to be accountable to ourselves, others and God.
It’s about stepping into your total healthy lifestyle change—body, soul and spirit. It’s about being supported while you undergo your personal transformation. And it’s priced low enough that you stay as long as it takes to allow that to happen.
It’s less than $1 a day. At $27/month this is not just a group you can afford, it’s a community you can’t do without. It’s been open longer than I said I’d leave it open because I have room for 20 more people. Is one of them you? The doors close firmly tonight, Saturday, Jan. 6 at 11:59 pm.
Don’t wait. Join now by clicking HERE.
I’ll see you in the group.
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1 Romans 7:19, 21 NLT
22Corinthians 12:9 MSG