What do you want? I’m not really talking about what you want in terms of “things.” What does God want for you?
When you see yourself happy and fulfilled, what do you see? What are you doing? When God sees you happy and fulfilled, what does He see?
This is beyond vocation and avocation. It may involve that, but it’s even deeper than that.
Many times it is dream that has stayed with us since childhood, but in our adult way have pushed it down because it’s not practical and doesn’t seem doable.
Answering this question is important because answering this question helps us answer the next question, which is foundational to starting any kind of change action. That question is what kind of woman could have what I want?
Here’s what I determined I wanted in 1994: I want to write books that make a difference in people’s lives.
I was writing, but I wasn’t writing books that matter. I had to examine why I wasn’t and what kind of woman could have or do what I wanted.
My life was very out of balance. We are triune beings comprised of a body, soul and spirit. Out of 10, I gave my spirit an 8, my soul a 6 and my body a 0. In other words, I was lopsided, big time.
I wanted to be whole and in balance. I also wanted to be healthy in all areas. Even though I was married to awesome man, had two great kids and worked in ministry, I was not happy. I wanted to feel that happiness.
If I had any chance of writing books that mattered, I needed to be whole, healthy and happy.
It was necessary to state what I wanted because I felt it was not what I had at the moment. It was where I was failing.
I weighed 430 pounds. I had little energy. My brain was foggy. I could barely get done what I did for my family and ministry.
What I wanted was to lose weight and be normal, but I didn’t want to go through any of the hard things to get to that point. To me the hard things would be giving up processed sugar and bread and starting daily exercise.
Evaluating what things I wanted to in order to change in my life was integral to the process. For me, it made all the difference. I know I would not be here today if I hadn’t gone on what has been a monumental change journey.
To begin that journey I stated in the positive who I needed to be in order to have what I wanted. I said, “I am a whole, healthy, happy woman.” It seemed strange at first saying something I was not. As I look back I realize I was actually prophesying into my own destiny.
So let me ask you, what do you want? What is a dream of yours, something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t because of some rational or practical decision? When God looks at you what is the potential outcome He sees?
What would it be like if you became that person? How it would feel and what difference it would make in your life?
What kind of person could have what you want and could attain your dream? What would be their attributes?
Would they be strong, brave, engaging, free, healthy, whole, joyful, courageous, compassionate, caring, loving. There are many adjectives you could use. Find at least three that describe what kind of person could have what you want.
Now understand this, God sees the future you, what you will accomplish and be.
The plans He has for you are for good and not disaster.1 He already knows what will happen. He has planted deep within you the desires for you to fulfill those dreams.
“You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”2
He also planted the positive attributes you described. They are already inside you.
All you need to do is act yourself into those attributes.
In 1994, weighing 430 pounds I said, “I am a whole, healthy, happy woman.” I wasn’t then. I am well on my way to being that now.
And I have written a book. I didn’t know my weight loss and a book that mattered would coincide, but God did.
There’s so much more to come for me and for you. Are you ready to be who God already knows you are?
Today, I am a whole, healthy, happy daughter of the King, an identity I can now claim, but that’s a whole other story.
Now, though, tell me, who are you?
1 Jeremiah 29:11 NLT
2 Psalm 139:16 NLT
Teresa Shields Parker is a wife, mother, business owner, life group leader, speaker and author of Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God’s Favor and Sweet Grace Study Guide: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Overcome Sugar Addiction. Get a free chapter of her memoir on her blog at Teresa Shields Parker.com. Connect with her there or on her Facebook page.