The most well-known example of transformation in nature has to be the butterfly. From a cocoon-shaped larvae to the graceful and beautiful butterfly is the epitome of transformation.

As people, however, transformation doesn’t come as natural as it does to the butterfly. He was created to be a butterfly from the very beginning. He couldn’t be anything else.

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We, of course, were created to be people with free wills. Our transformation to grace and beauty, isn’t as certain as that of a butterfly.

We are akin to the butterfly in one way, though. It takes most of us a long time to transform.

It can happen. We want to change, stop a bad habit, lose weight, quit smoking, stop looking at pornographic sites, work on that invention, go back to school. There are many ways we can transform ourselves, but many of us never start. We are waiting for a magical intervention to make it happen, but it never does. We blame God for not fixing us when all along, He has given us the job.

Change happens when we throw out the old thoughts and ideas and adopt an entirely different way of thinking and understanding.1 Facing the fact we have been believing lies, we put on truth. I will lose weight for my health. I will stop drinking to be a more effective father and worker. I will quit smoking because it is costly and I don’t want to damage my lungs. I will stop looking a pornography as it is harmful to my mind. I will create that invention because it is something that is needed. I will go to college and get my degree.

Transforming change is something we work on with God’s help. That’s not a pat answer, it’s just truth. It’s not easy but will be worth it. Like all change, there is a process. Here are some things to think about regarding that process.

1. Desire—We first have to have a desire to change. Change is messy business. Just ask any caterpillar trying to change into a butterfly. It’s going to mean giving up some things and doing the hard stuff none of us like to do. The desire for change must be more important than staying in the comfortable cocoon to which we’re accustomed.

2. Separation—If we are going to transform, we will be different. This means we must separate from the things others want us to do. Do you want to lose weight? You can’t continue to eat like you’ve always done and baking sweet delicacies to wow you’re friends. Your transformation will require you to be separate, make unique choices.

3. Alignment—Connecting and aligning your allegiance to something or Someone greater than you is not just a good idea, it is necessary for transformation to take place. Your separation from your old way of life and alignment with the new must be total or transformation will be a botched effort.

4. Dedication—Akin to alignment is dedication. This is deeper than alignment. It means you have pledged your life to a greater purpose and to the One who will lead you in this process. It’s a surrender to the old ways you’ve always done things and a total dedication to your new Master.

5. Action—Up to this point, everything is preliminary preparation for transformation. Now comes action. This is where you give up your cigarettes, alcohol, pornography, gambling, extra-marital affairs, sugar or anything else you think you can never live without. You start on the journey of transformation. You begin the process of unfolding your wings.

6. Proof—Transformation will be more apparent to those around us than to ourselves. Proving to ourselves we have transformed will take more than looking in the mirror and seeing we have wings. It will take changing on the inside. Proof may come in a moment. You are in a situation where you make the right choice, almost without thinking, and you realize, I really have changed. Or you don’t make the right choice, but you think through why and with God’s help, learn from it. This, too, is different. You have changed. There is proof. You set a marker in this place and go back to it often.

7. Perfection—Changing from where we were to where we are now, doesn’t mean we will be perfect, but that is our goal. When we realize the God of the universe sees us as perfect because we are exactly who we were designed to be, our transformation will be complete.

We have become a butterfly and are ready to try out our wings.

“Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].” Romans 12:2 AMP


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Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 260 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. She has three more books, "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing An Appetite for God." Sweet Grace and Sweet Freedom study guides are available as well. All books are on Amazon. Her Coaching Programs can be found under the Weight Loss tab at To book Teresa for your next event, check the Speaking Tab.