“I need to pull up my big girl panties and just start,” Sally said.1 She bumped into me in the panty aisle at the discount store. Her cart hit mine in the tiny aisle. She apologized and the conversation ensued as can only happen amidst brightly colored lingerie and two women who’ve never met before.
I told her it was fine and they should make the aisles bigger. She was a large woman searching for size 13 underwear. I remember those days and always wondered why they put that size on the bottom row where it was almost impossible for a plus size lady to bend down and retrieve.
“Here, let me help you,” I said bending down to get a few choices in the size she needed. We discussed types and styles and why they didn’t make anything besides granny panties in larger sizes.
She commented, “You seem to know a lot about larger sizes. Did you used to work here?” I replied, “No, I used to weigh 430 pounds and so I’ve searched for those sizes many times and been frustrated.”
Of course, she was surprised as many are when I tell them. I gave her my card, but as I’ve learned I changed the subject so as not to make her uncomfortable.
“I’m trying to find the kind I really like. I need ones like these,” I said as I pointed to an extra-large, but I want it in medium. She helped me search for some in my new size. We found some, but they weren’t exactly what I was looking for.
What Have You Got to Lose?
“Well, it’s not what I wanted, but they’re not that expensive. So I guess it’s better I buy a few and try them. I don’t want my panties falling off!” We laughed and she said, “Yes, buy them. What have you got to lose?”
Her comment triggered a response in me. I turned and looked her straight in the eyes. I knew she was feeling the moment as well. “I could lose a few more pounds,” I said quietly. “I never want to go back where I was. I never want that feeling of sheer despair again. I only have to look at my before picture to understand how far I’ve come.”
Tears began to roll down her cheeks. I stepped over and laid my hand on her shoulder. Looking at underwear in her cart, she said, “I have to do something. I know I do. It’s just so hard, but I guess you know that.”
“I know that for sure. I struggled with this issue for 30 years until I found the keys that have moved me forward.”
“I’d love to have some quick, easy way to do this,” she said.
“Wouldn’t everyone? That’s why weight loss is a billion dollar industry. It’s not about the correct diet as much as it is about if you are ready to step to step into total transformation. I will say this, it is the easiest hard thing I’ve ever done, but you do have to make a commitment to change.”
She held up her size 13 panties, laughed and said, “So what you’re saying is I just need to pull up my big girl panties and just start?”
Laugh It Off
I joined her laughter, but inside I felt sad her. She used making light of her predicament to make a hasty retreat. I knew the switch from deep connected conversation with a total stranger I will probably never meet again to light-hearted banter.
She fell back into a learned response. Laugh it off and it will go away. I so wish that was true, but I know for a fact it is not.
It takes commitment, perseverance and total reliance on God to be changed from the inside out.2 Don’t get me wrong, it is definitely possible. I know this for a fact. Sally may or may not step into change. My gut tells me she will not.
I feel Sally may be lost to her addiction, but you, my friend, are not. How do I know that? You’re still here. You’re still reading. You really want a way out of where you are and I know there is a way. Because if God and I can do it, you and God can definitely do it.
“So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for Him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out.”2
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1Not her real name
2Romans 12:1-2 MSG