Are you out-of-control? I’ll admit being in control or being the boss has always been something I highly valued. Being in charge and knowing what’s going on seemed to be where I fit in the great scheme of things. I liked leading.

As a matter of fact, I liked it so much that I was always the one to make the decisions. I wanted to direct the outcomes to be what I wanted or at least what I felt were required.

Controller Mentality

Lately, though, being in control just takes too much energy. I’m not administering or managing. I’m simply trying to control the chaos and confusion.

In case you’re wondering, that’s not working.

As a child, I didn’t like it when I saw adults in my life who seemed out-of-control. Even at a young age, I stepped in to be in control. At least then I’d know if supper got made or the clothes washed and dried.

Not knowing if it would get done would drive me more crazy than just doing it myself. These days trying to do it all or make sure it all gets done is beyond exhausting to a state of paralysis.

Giving God Control

Understanding this has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I handed my need to control everything to God because I no longer had the capacity to do it. I didn’t struggle with it. I just handed it to Him.

When He accepted my “gift” I didn’t ask Him, “What do You give me in exchange?” I didn’t want anything else to manage. Still, I was immediately engulfed in peace. What a welcome relief.

Then insight and clarity began to flood me. God gave me a gift of leadership and administration, but He gave it to me to steward. That means I only have authority over things He hands to me.

This may not be a major revelation to you, but I am not God. However, as His daughter I can lead you to Him if I am not trying to be Him.


Some gifts God gives us flow so naturally they begin to take over our lives and we become them. When that happens they can overwhelm us to the point of exhaustion.

We need to rest, even from our gifts. God created the heavens, earth, plants, animals, mankind and everything we need to sustain life in a mere seven days.1 But notice, on the seventh day, He rested.He laid His gifts aside and rested. Was He still Creator? Yes, but He didn’t let His gifts overwhelm Him.

Here’s a question I’ve been asking myself. If the God of the universe rested on the 7th day, why do I think I have to work nonstop?

Beyond Us

We need to guard our gifts in a sacred place in our hearts where God holds them until we need them. Then, He pulls them out and mixes them with a capacity so far beyond ourselves that we know we are no longer in control. God is.

“God wants to use you beyond your capacity, beyond your gifts because then He gets the glory,” Bill Johnson said.

These days I am seeking to be out-of-control so God can be in control. When that happens  I expect to begin to see all of Heaven to break loose in my life. I will see miracles, acceleration of promises and supernatural favor in order for His will to be done on earth as it is in Heaven.3

All of this happens when we focus on what God wants instead of what we want. When we stop spinning in circles trying to control everything and everyone around us and just listen and follow our Leader.

Good Health

We were not made to control everything. We were made to steward the things God has entrusted to us by following Him.

To do otherwise will ruin our health, but if we allow God to be in control of the outcomes in our lives, we will “glow with health” and “vibrate with life.“

“Trust God from the bottom of your heart. Don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go. He’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil! Your body will glow with health, your very bones will vibrate with life!”4

Are you ready to allow hand over everything you think you have to control to God? What are those things? Why do you continue to hang on to them when you know beyond a shadow of a doubt you cannot control the outcome anyway? Are you ready to find time to rest in Him and allow Him to carry the load for you?

I’ve given up control and I’m learning to rest in Him, but it’s not a one-time event. I find I am daily having to give up control of some things again. God always patiently receives them back each time. Eventually I decide it’s a welcome relief and a sweet rest to have Him be in control of every single part of me.

1Genesis 1:1 NLT

2Genesis 2:1 NLT

3Matthew 6:10 NIV

4Proverbs 3:5-8 MSG

Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

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