It was a heartfelt cry for HELP! She shared her story. It was a similar story I’ve heard throughout the years. As a matter of fact, her story was so similar to mine. She lost 100 pounds, but now finds herself in “a terrible place and very out of control.”

Out of control and yet trying to hide that angst was the story of my life until I began to realize my issue was just the opposite. I was trying, trying, trying to be in control and it was exhausting.

I’d go on a diet and greatly restrict myself for a season, lose 100 pounds, but then reward myself with a great dessert, something my Grandma would have made. That would throw me back into the tailspin of weight gain.

Nothing worked right for me to lose weight and keep it off until I realized this one simple truth. I will never be IN control until I let God have FULL control of everything in my life including what I eat and why I eat it.

Self-Control

Self-control or temperance is a fruit of the Spirit that eluded me for years. Self-control doesn’t mean I control myself. It means I allow the Holy Spirit to control everything. I give control over to Him. I am under His authority, not mine.

Under my authority, my selfish interests raise their ugly heads and scream at me to reward myself for hard work, to indulge myself when I need comfort, that it is fine to eat when I’m lonely because food is my companion or that it’s OK if I eat this because I need extra layers of fat to protect me from men who might harm me or people who might belittle me.

God has a different plan. He asks us to give Him control of our “self”. The dictionary defines temperance as “habitual moderation in the indulgence of a natural appetite or passion.” When the Holy Spirit is in control of every part of us self-control becomes natural.

Somewhere along the way, though, a part of us has been short-circuited, circumvented and emotionally we think we need food, alcohol or any number of other things to keep us under control. That then becomes the way we control the “self” part of us. And then that spins out of control.

Conundrum

We live in the Romans 7:19 conundrum of “the good I want to do I don’t do and the wrong I don’t want to do, I do.” There are root issues of why this is happening. They stem back to childhood. They are emotional in nature and they get stuck inside of us and override our rational decisions when we are adults.

Many times they are things we don’t cognitively think about because we are adults now. We know, for instance, that Grandma didn’t mean for us to keep running to the foods she feed us when we feel unloved. But we do. How do we get through that one?

Many times they are things we don’t cognitively think about because we are adults now. We know, for instance, that Grandma didn’t mean for us to keep running to the foods she feed us when we feel unloved. But we do. How do we get through that one?

As adults, we’ve dismissed Grandma’s involvement because she’s already dancing in heaven and we loved her and she meant no harm. But emotionally we are still tied to her. So we have to embrace that emotion, recognize it, forgive her, renounce the lies we believe and hear God’s truth.

There are many other issues, things like abuse, loss of a parent, being bullied in school, and many others, that emotionally govern our lives. God loves it when His people get set free.

The evil one has found the way to stop us dead in our tracks. Our minds don’t see food as that big of a deal. But we have allowed it to capture us and now it controls us.

It wasn’t until I finally relinquished the sugar (completely) and started listening, really listening, and allowing Him to lead me, really lead me that the switch began to happen. To date, I’ve lost over 260 pounds.

Emotions and Freedom

In the middle of all of this, though, I also began working with several coaches who taught me various aspects of inner healing and freedom principles that I use today in coaching clients.

In VIP Freedom Coaching, I’m working one-on-one with 12 people to help get them where they need to be. To discover the roots of the core issues and get rid of them. To give them the tools so they can continue to pull up new roots they discover. Because another thing I’ve realized is Satan also likes to hide our root issues. When we understand what he is doing, we can stop him.

This group is designed specifically for those who are desperate for their own freedom but are also trying to lead others on their freedom journey.

I am no longer wallowing in that Romans 7:19 conundrum, I’m living in the freedom of the life-giving Spirit of Christ and that’s such a good place to be. I’m no longer out of control, I’ve given control of myself to the only One who gives me strength in the midst of my weakness.

Doors close for this group at midnight tonight, September 4. I have only a few spots left. If you really need help and want to help others, join now. Use this link: https://TeresaShieldsParker.com/VIP-Freedom-Coaching.

If the button is still there, the group is still open. Keep trying. Others may be trying to get in as well. It’s time to allow God to be in control. We can help you.

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Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 260 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. She has three more books, "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing An Appetite for God." Sweet Grace and Sweet Freedom study guides are available as well. All books are on Amazon. Her Coaching Programs can be found under the Weight Loss tab at TeresaShieldsParker.com. To book Teresa for your next event, check the Speaking Tab.