Trust is a scary thing to most people. However on the Christian journey learning to trust is vital.  If we have trust issues with people we can see and touch, it’s a great probability we will have a difficult time trusting Jesus.

Our lack of trust probably comes from a problem in our childhood when a friend we trusted deceived us. Because it caused us pain and we were embarrassed by it, we shoved the memory down to the cellar of our hearts and threw food at it to keep it quiet.

We thought it was taken care of and  we wouldn’t ever have to face that issue again or even think about it again. Then we grow up and someone lies to us. For some reason that lie, which might not have something small, hurt us deeply.

Automatically, we are run to food to make the hurt go away. We want to stop doing that but we can’t and we don’t know why.

Mistrust Issues

We see people at a church function or a party look in our direction and go back to talking to whoever they were talking to and we are sure they are telling lies about us. Our face turns red with embarrassment and we run straight to the desserts being served and stay there all night eating so we don’t have to talk to anyone. We vow to never trust anyone again.

As we go through our lives we begin to see this pattern of mistrust. We are always waiting for the other shoe to fall. We are afraid we will get fired, our husband will leave us, our kids will mess up , we’ll go bankrupt or something terrible will happen to a family member.

All of a sudden our lack of trust has spilled over into a lack of trust of Jesus. It happens slowly, silently, but as we were trying to hide from others, we began making our stomach our god, (Phil 3:19 NIV).

Roots of Mistrust

Our inability to forgive the person who deceived us as a child or lied to us as an adult has made us afraid to trust anyone, even Jesus. Jesus is supposed to be our companion, the one who walks and talks with us on this journey.

When we are children and feel betrayed by siblings, cousins or close friends, it hinders our ability to trust even Jesus. We don’t understand how to handle this as a child and our parents haven’t helped us with that, now this trust issue is festering inside us.

There is a way to get through this and trust Jesus again. It involves forgiving the friend who deceived us, renouncing the lie that Jesus won’t do the same to us and then, asking Him to tell us or show us what His truth is.

Trusting Jesus

Let me ask you. Do you trust Jesus or do you trust your stomach to help you walk this journey. Trust is the framework on which we build our journey. If we don’t trust Jesus to walk with us and lead us we live the Christian life.

Remember the rich, young ruler who asked Jesus what he could do to earn eternal life? “Jesus answered him, ‘If you wish to be perfect, that is, have the spiritual maturity that accompanies godly character with no moral or ethical deficiencies, go and sell what you have and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me, becoming My disciple, believing and trusting in Me and walking the same path of life that I walk,’” (Matthew 19:21 AMP).

My Trust Journey

I am always sad to even repeat the next line. “But when the young man heard this, he went away sad, for he had many possessions,” (Matthew 19:22 NLT).

The reason I dislike this scripture is because there were many times Jesus asked me to stop eating sugar but I went away sad because I didn’t want to do it or even think I could do it.

As a result I wasn’t walking in complete trust with Him. I wasn’t walking the same path of life that He walks. Remember Jesus’ first temptation? After he had fasted for 40 days, the devil told Him to turn the stones into bread.

What did Jesus say? He said. “No! The scriptures say, ‘People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God,’” (Matthew 4:4 NLT).

Following What He Says

Since 1977 when Jesus told me to stop eating sugar, I have come to see that the reason He told me to do that was because He saw what would eventually happen to me if I kept eating the way I was eating.

When I finally followed His instructions beginning in 2004, the weight began to come off. I finally put my trust in Him. He has been showing me the way out of my super morbid obesity for years. I just didn’t trust Him enough to take that first risky leap of faith. When I did, I fell right into His arms of grace.

After losing 250 pounds I feel better than I have in years. It’s all because I finally trusted Him to lead me on this journey.

Learning to Change

Now He’s leading me to offer you my foundational course Journey to Transformation. This course will lay the foundation for your healthy lifestyle change journey.

Trust will definitely be a lesson in this course because it is a vital building block on your journey. The Journey to Transformation Course is open now, but doors are closing Friday, Feb. 15.

Our introductory lesson is up now. Go HERE to join:

I’ll see you in the group!




Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. She has four more books, "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing An Appetite for God." Sweet Grace and Sweet Freedom study guides are available as well. All books are on Amazon and under the book tab on her website. Her Coaching Programs can be found under the Weight Loss tab. To book Teresa for your next event, check the Speaking tab. Also check out her blog at