Where would you be without yourself? Strange question, I know. Really, though, sometimes we act as if we would rather be with anyone except ourself.
There was a time when I couldn’t stand myself. When I weighed 430 I was totally disgusted with myself. If somehow I could have a pain-free escape to heaven, I would have taken it. I just was tired of dealing with all the difficulties super morbid obesity brought into my existence.
I often wonder which came first, my disgust of myself or the extreme weight gain? I believe my perfectionistic tendencies regularly made me beat myself up. I wanted everything I did to be perfect because somewhere along the way, I bought into the belief that I could never measure up in looks or body image, but I could do more. I could achieve more and that would make up for it.
That idea that my body image wasn’t acceptable began early in my life. I wasn’t a chubby child, but I felt like I was. And for a kid, all it takes is feeling that way.
It was in 1994 that I tapped into the power of speaking a positive declaration over myself. It’s interesting to me that God did this long before any positive thought gurus came along. After all, He calls us Chosen,1 Redeemed,2, Sanctified,3 Holy4 and Blameless5 just to name a few. And most of the time we don’t feel like we are any of those.
It was during a seminar that I declared I was a whole, healthy, happy woman. I was anything, but that. If the ringmaster had announced me for the circus he would have said, “And weighing in at 430 pounds in this corner is the lady who breaks any chair she sits in, hates to look at herself, feels like her life is in pieces and has very little reason to laugh, however can cry at the drop of a hat.”
But from that day forward I began to say with my mouth, “I am a whole, healthy, happy woman.” It took at least 15 years before I got anywhere close to that. But today, I can say with confidence I am there.
I like myself. I try to never say the words, “Teresa, you’re so stupid,” that I used to say at least five times a day. I like to look in the mirror. I smile easily, laugh readily and love with abandon.
Reframing my life through God’s eyes of destiny is not lying. It is simply tapping into a much GREATER truth.
“For we are God’s poetry, a recreated people who will fulfill the destiny He has given each of us, for we are joined to Jesus, the Anointed One. Even before we were born, God planned in advance our destiny and the good works we would do to fulfill it.”6
I believe in the power of claiming who God says we are, claiming His promises. As a matter of fact, I would say the way we see ourselves relates directly to the way we love ourselves, which relates to how we take care of —body, soul and spirit.
I have a FREE video lesson and study guide entitled Love Yourself that goes into more detail about this and includes a list of promises and affirmations you can claim. It’s our FREE gift to you when you join Sweet Change Weight Loss Coaching and Accountability Group now through Feb. 20. Go HERE for the details.
Oh and here’s a video about celebrating YOU!
1 Eph. 1:4
2 Eph. 1:7
3 1 Cor. 6:11
4 John 3:16
5 Col. 1:21-22
6 Epesians 2:10 TPT
Teresa Shields Parker is author of Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds, Sweet Grace Study Guide and Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation. She is a speaker, transformation coach, avid blogger, business owner, wife, mother and whole, healthy happy woman!