There is a spectacular misbelief that God expects us to be perfect. We are human. He knows we are not going to be perfect. All He asks is that we make it our goal to grow in our faith. Although I know this in my head, it’s really hard to get it to sink down into my heart, the seat of my desires. I want to be perfect and so I strive towards that goal, but pushing hard and trying to be perfect always causes me to fail in some way.

Without God’s grace flowing through me, I am weak in my human strength. When I stop trying to get everything perfect and allow God to work through me that’s a different story. Then, “I am strong, truly able, truly powerful, truly drawing from God’s strength.” (2 Cor. 12:10 AMP)

The Perfectionism Conundrum

The other day I was jogging laps in the water. I was reeling from my latest blatant attempt to be perfect and beating myself up because of it. Many times I feel if I don’t do things perfectly they are not worth doing. This leads me to procrastinate and not do anything.

I wanted to know the root so I could get rid of it once and for all. I had dug around in that perfectionism pile many times and done a lot of forgiveness, renouncing lies and hearing God’s truths and yet, I could still identify perfectionism in my life.

I felt God asked me, “When is the first time you felt you needed to get everything right.?’ Then I remembered my grandma would give me $1 for every E I got and an extra $5 if I got all E’s. In second grade I so wanted that reward to buy my first two-wheel bike and I need all the money to get it.

I worked hard all semester to get all A’s. I was on pins and needles until we got our report cards the last day of school. I was unsure of a couple of categories, but I was hoping and praying I had done everything excellently.

To my great surprise my teacher thought so too and gave me all E’s. I was so excited. I had worked hard. I had won my reward. I got the perfect score. My perfection was highly rewarded.

The Root

This was the root of not accepting less than perfect with anything I did. I needed to be perfect in order to get the perfect reward. I would accept nothing less.

To get rid of the root, I knew I should forgive my grandma, even though it seemed ridiculous to me to forgive her for setting up the hard work ethic her rewards gave me. I knew, though, it was the only way for me to get breakthrough.

I forgave her for expecting me to be perfect and then, rewarding my perfection. I renounced the lie that the Holy Spirit expects me to be perfect. Then, I asked God, “What is Your truth?”

This is always my favorite part, but this time His answer surprised me. He didn’t tell me He loved me like I am, although I know He does. He didn’t say, I’ll always be with you, though I know He will. He said, “If you were perfect you wouldn’t need Me because you would be God.”

Am I God?

I repeated that over and over in mind. I pondered it. I carried it around before I dealt with it. God was going deep into that mess of perfectionism. There have been times when I felt I knew better than God. I thought I had the “perfect” answer and if He would just do what I wanted Him to, everything would be fine.

Did I really think I was better than God? In His answer to me, God hit at the core of my issue. If I trust God I won’t try to run His show. His show really is my life. I need to let Him lead me in all things. I need to submit to God completely.

The truth is only God is perfect because only God is holy. He asks us to be imitators of Him. Copy Him and follow His example. (Ephesians 5:1 AMP)

Jesus said to those gathered for sermon on the mount, “Be ye perfect even as your Father in Heaven is perfect.” (Matthew 5:48 KJV) This is impossible without God.

The Amplified version defines the word perfect in this passage as “growing into spiritual maturity both in mind and character actively integrating godly values into your daily life.” (Matthew 5:48 AMP)

Who Is Perfect?

None of us are perfect on our own. We have all failed in some way. Paul explains it further. “Not that I have already obtained it, this goal of being Christlike, or have already been made perfect, but I actively press on so that I may take hold of that perfection for which Christ Jesus took hold of me and made me His own.” (Phil 3:12 AMP)

Then, he succinctly states that following Jesus completely should be the goal of every Christian.Brothers and sisters, I do not consider that I have made it my own yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the heavenly prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (Phil 3:13-14 AMP)

God was showing me that I am weakest when I am trying to get everything right and attempting to figure out my problems and everyone else’s in my own strength. Only when I lay down self-effort and rely on His strength will I be able to conquer every difficulty.

“I know what it means to lack, and I know what it means to experience overwhelming abundance. For I’m trained in the secret of overcoming all things, whether in fullness or in hunger. And I find that the strength of Christ’s explosive power infuses me to conquer every difficulty.” (Phil 4:12-13 TPT)

Let’s stop beating ourselves up for our imperfections, hand them all to Jesus and learn to live walking hand in hand with His Holy Spirit power and strength infused into every core of our being.

It’s then that we are strong, truly able, truly powerful, truly drawing from God’s strength and can accomplish whatever He has called us to do.

We Need Jesus

None of us are perfect. We have all failed. I failed big time on my faith journey by not listening to Jesus and trying to lose weight my own way even though at 430 pounds I obviously didn’t know how to do that. When I cried out to Him, He took me out of my own tendency to either do things perfectly or not at all. And He led me to lose over 260 pounds. I really needed Jesus for my extreme weight loss journey. I need Him every day.

We all need Jesus with us to travel this journey. We need His strength, His peace, His grace and His overcoming power. That’s why I started Overcomers Christian Weight Loss Community. We need to learn how to apply all that He has for us to our daily life, our eating, sleeping and walking around life.

After moving out of perfectionism, I begin the risky journey of following what Jesus was showing me to do. That made all the difference in my life. I can help you learn how to be victorious on this journey by following Jesus completely, ditching the here today gone tomorrow diet plans and stepping into total lifestyle change. Price is going up on March 1. Get in now for only $27/month. Price will never go up for you as long as you are in the group.

Join us HERE.I will see you in the group. I will be the imperfect one.

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Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 260 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. She has three more books, "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing An Appetite for God." Sweet Grace and Sweet Freedom study guides are available as well. All books are on Amazon. Her Coaching Programs can be found under the Weight Loss tab at To book Teresa for your next event, check the Speaking Tab.