To teens who are not sexually active but want to be:
- Don’t believe everyone is sexually active.
- Know the basics about sexual intercourse. Talk to your parents, a responsible adult or your doctor.
- Know your worth. Know how much better you will feel about yourself if you do not have sex before being in a committed relationship such as marriage. The majority of scars people deal with later in life have to do with past relationships that didn’t go well.
- Realize you are valued by the God of the universe. He cared enough to send His son to die for you.
To sexually active teens:
- Be healthy and be safe. Use condoms. Know your partner’s history. Don’t listen to your friends. Your peers are not professionals.
- Don’t give this awesome part of yourself to someone who will not be a part of your life later. Young women who engage in sexual intercourse to feel more accepted, worth something or loved turn out to feel more lonely than before.
- Don’t intentionally have a baby to fill a desire for love or relationship. Your child is not a pet. A child is a human being with many wants and needs.
- Having a child does not automatically make your boyfriend love you. It can push you further apart. If you get pregnant, you may feel resentful that you have a child to take care of.
To teen moms:
- Cling to people who are positive and want to support you.
- Find a mentor.
- Use community resources such as crisis pregnancy clinics, free clinics, and the faith-based community.
- If you have to be on government support of some kind, make a plan to get off of it as soon as possible such as furthering your education or getting job training of some kind. Your solefocus should be to be completely independent and able to take care of yourself and your child.
- Don’t focus on what the father is doing or not doing. Focus on bettering yourself to become an independent person.
- Keep your kids close. Know what is going on with them.
- Ask questions. Dig, pick and be interested in them. Kids want to know answers about healthy relationships, sex, alcohol and drugs.
- Teens want to hear answers from their parents even if they don’t act like it. If they don’t hear from you, they will hear from someone else.
- Talk to your kids about sex. Have the conversation when they can’t walk away from you.
To divorced parents:
- Co-parent in such a way that allows you to talk about what your teens are doing when they are at each other’s houses. Let your teen know you talk to each other and inform each other of what’s going on with them.
- Take yourselves out of the situation. Focus on your kids.
- Rules and boundaries should apply at both homes.